We live in a digital world. Everything is online — our money, our friends, our businesses. For so many of us who live our lives online, it only makes sense that we take dating online too. Online dating is not a new concept by any means, but it is increasingly gaining popularity and acceptance in our society as a viable way to meet someone. Not everyone has found their mate on online dating sites though — why is that? It could be because they lose interest as soon as they sign up. It could be because they never accept any invitations for dates. It could also be because they didn’t put the right information to properly highlight them and their offerings in their profile. Here are some tips for creating a killer online dating profile that will score you all the best dates.
- List sociable hobbies. “People have to imagine how they’ll fit into your life, so describing yourself as a ‘bookworm and internet addict’ makes them feel they’d never see you,” explains Match.com’s relationship expert Kate Taylor. “Play up your love of anything sporty, outdoorsy or public – like concerts and exhibitions.”
- Use specific language and examples. Skip the cliché junk like, “I have a good sense of humor” or “I’m a glass-half-full person.” That’s tired and phony and people will see right through that. Instead, describe those attributes with an anecdote like, “I enjoy going out to comedy clubs with my friends and having a good time.” Or if you love travelling, talk about your favorite place or trip. Anything concrete brings you alive to someone reading your profile.
- A list of your quirks. You might shy away from this because you’re embarrassed by some of these, but exposing yourself to people and showing them vulnerabilities will make you feel approachable, endearing, and possibly downright adorable — because that’s what quirks are a lot of the time. Besides, it’s always better to be honest and upfront from the very beginning. If some of these quirks are going to be deal breakers down the road, it’s far better to never have the first date and waste your time and cause potential heartache then to keep these things a secret until later in the relationship.
- Your deal breakers. Similarly, you don’t want to waste the other person’s time either. If there are certain things you know are absolute deal breakers, include them. No point in going down a dead end road.
- Happy, smiley photos of yourself. According to Marie Claire, “In a recent poll, we found that 96 percent of people would rather see a big, happy grin in a profile photo than a sexy pout.” Lose the duck face and show some teeth!
- Keep things short and sweet. According to Kate Taylor from Match.com again: “You wouldn’t introduce yourself to someone in a bar with your entire life history, so don’t do it online. Imagine you are doing an icebreaker introduction where you have to sum yourself up briefly.” Be descriptive, say what you need to, but long life stories will bore, not attract at first.